Hello, we are Steve and Heather from New York.
HELLO AND THANK YOU!
WE ARE EXCITED TO MEET YOU. We can only imagine the challenge you are going through at this time. WE PROMISE TO RESPECT YOU, LISTEN TO YOU AND ANSWER ANY OF YOUR QUESTIONS THROUGHOUT THE PROCESS.
Our names are Steve and Heather and we are so hopeful to complete our family through adoption. We have been together for almost ten years, and married for five years in September of 2019. Steve has three children from his first marriage, Matthew, Danielle and Jason, however, we are searching to parent a baby together.
We want this profile to give you some insight on who we are so you can get to know us and decide if we are the right family for you. After struggling with infertility for over ten years, we have been looking to adopt. We look forward to the day we bring home a child to love and nurture. We live in a friendly suburb in western New York. During dinner table conversations, our kids continue to ask, “When will we be getting a baby sibling to join the family.” We’re not sure who is more excited to welcome a new family member! THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW US!
we have a strong love and respect for one another. We were introduced through Heather’s mom’s close friend. When we met, we were immediately able to talk freely. We feel it is also important to laugh and have some humor about our quirks.
Steve brings Heather coffee in the morning because he knows it is harder for her to wake up. Heather knows that it is best she take care of logistics regarding social plans for the family. WE COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER WELL WHEN IT COMES TO TAKING TURNS WITH VARIOUS RESPONSIBILITIES. Both of us are fairly calm, but sometimes Steve needs to convince Heather the family dog Scarlett will be okay while we are on vacation. Or Heather needs to convince Steve there will be enough time to get to our destination and that there is going to be enough room in the car for our luggage.
Heather has an ability to put people at ease and allow them to be themselves in a way that I have never seen before. IN EVEN THE MOST DIFFICULT SITUATIONS SHE CAN SIT DOWN AND CONNECT WITH PEOPLE AND BRING OUT THEIR BEST SIDE. I know that she brings out the best in me. When we disagree I know that she will bring a truthful perspective to me and will listen to what I think and feel to find a common solution.
Her grace when under pressure gives me strength when I am under pressure. She has shown me how to love nature in new ways, how to celebrate with family and friends and how to be the catalyst that brings people together. And who can forget that she taught me to love coffee almost as much as she does!
DO WHAT YOU LOVE, LOVE WHAT YOU DO
I have worked as a Special Education Teacher for 20 years. I always knew I wanted to help people in some capacity. MY FAVORITE PART OF MY JOB IS THE RELATIONSHIP WITH MY STUDENTS. I work with teenagers who I learn from regularly. Additionally, I feel education is such an important part of a person’s life. I also feel fortunate to work with a very supportive school community.
Steve is an extremely kind and gentle soul. He is always respectful of everyone around him. Steve works hard as both a husband and father. He always works to communicate if there are any conflicts.
Steve is the kind of person that can meet people of different backgrounds and get along with any of them. He is really smart but is humble about his intelligence. Steve also has a sense of humor and makes me laugh often.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE, LOVE WHAT YOU DO
I work as a primary care physician in a small private practice in a suburb near our home. My partners and I pride ourselves on the quality of care that we provide to a very caring community. We take care of adults both in our office and in the hospital. I have been very fortunate to have such a wonderful group of people to work with over these many years.
A PLACE CALLED HOME
Our home is in a close-knit development in a suburb. Our neighbors are very friendly and helpful. We have enough land to enjoy sitting outside and letting our dog and children run around. We experience the four seasons, and we like fall, summer and spring the most because it allows more time to enjoy nature. But in the winter, Steve is willing to build igloos for fun. The school district in our area is well respected. Heather teaches in the suburb in the town next to ours. While Steve’s family lives 5 hours away, Heather has sisters, nieces and a parent in the area. They cannot wait to spend time with a new family member.
MEET OUR FURRY FRIEND
We both love dogs and have had dogs throughout our lives. Currently, we have the sweetest two-year old Lab/Shephard mix. She has been through a couple of training sessions, and is very well behaved. Scarlett lives to swim and play ball. She gets so excited to see the kids, family members and friends. Since she is such a good dog, we plan to go through training to get her certified as a therapy dog.
When we met ten years ago, we bought kayaks and snow shoes so we would have activities to do together. Heather prefers the kayaks, as it means the weather is warm. Both of us enjoy being outdoors to run, bike, and hike (although Steve enjoys the running more).
We also both like to read, watch a good movie or show and just hang out together at home. Steve is a great cook, and makes amazing dinners for us on a regular basis. We are also both kind of obsessed with coffee.
Additionally, we like to take family trips a couple times a year. We enjoy going to the ocean and exploring unique cities.
heather Exploring the woods
steve Chocolate chip cookies
Favorite musical artist
heather Billy Joel
steve Duke Ellington
jason Ben Platt
heather Hiking with our dog
steve Hiking with our dog
Favorite Children’s movie
heather Monster’s Inc
INTRODUCING OUR KIDS
We parent three great kids together. While they are Steve’s biological children, they are Heather’s stepchildren. Matthew is the oldest at 21 years old. He just completed his third year of college studying Biology. Matt has a dry sense of humor, enjoys puzzles, and plays the tuba in a college band. Danielle is 18 and is heading to college next year for nursing. She enjoys nature like Heather, so they often take adventures on various park trails in the area. Danielle has a big heart and is excited to be a big sister. Jason is our most social butterfly of 14 years. He is both nervous and excited to have the house to himself next year when his sister heads to college, and is happy to share his parent’s attention with a baby sibling, (because it means he can sneak more technology).
THE PEOPLE WE LOVE
We are both fortunate to have loving and supportive families. THEY HAVE SUPPORTED US THROUGHOUT OUR LIVES, AND ALSO ON THIS JOURNEY. Heather’s sisters love Steve’s children, but cannot wait to be an aunt from the beginning of a child’s life. Heather’s family members are kind, loving and have a sense of humor. Life is not always easy and we have had our challenges, but we have cried and laughed and come through. Heather’s sister has two children that have a strong bond with Steve, Heather and the children. While Steve’s family does not live in town, they have a tradition of going to the Poconos every summer. The kids look forward to this all year.
Our three kids get together with the other 5 cousins and have so much fun together. Additionally, Steve parents travel to visit for special occasions. As a family we also travel to visit Steve’s parents and siblings, and Heather’s sister who lives in the New York City area.
THERE IS NO QUESTION THAT OUR FAMILIES HAVE A LOT OF LOVE TO GIVE.
OUR LIFE AS PARENTS
We feel that love and respect for one another is most important in our household. AS PARENTS, WE WORK AS A UNITED FRONT TO MAKE DECISIONS FOR OUR THREE CHILDREN. Children must trust their parents and feel safe in order to share their concerns, difficulties or questions. We want the children to know our family is our number one priority. Our kids know that we are not perfect and we make mistakes just like them. We are not afraid to admit we don’t have all the answers, but we will always be available to help them figure it out.
ONE LAST THANK YOU
We are so excited to adopt a baby, but we understand this must be a very difficult decision for you. Our journey has been long but we still have faith in making a connection with the right family. WE CAN TELL YOU WE ARE HERE TO ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS YOU HAVE, AND PROMISE TO ANSWER HONESTLY. We are both very open and accepting people and we are open to having a relationship with you post adoption if this is what you would like. Either way, we will honor your choice. Thank you for considering us as parents for your child. We would love a chance to meet with you and answer any questions. No matter what you decide, we wish you well. Thanks again!